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8 Things you should Do as Soon as You Get Engaged

Updated: Jan 29, 2020


This is the moment you've been waiting for. Holy moley, you have an engagement ring and you're getting married. It's so surreal, yet definitely happening, and like it or not, the hours, days, and weeks following that proposal are guaranteed to be a whirlwind.

There are so many things to think about, so many people to contact, and so much to get done. Don't be overwhelmed. You have plenty of time to plan the rest of your lives but if you're like most newly engaged people, you'll be itching to share the news with all your friends and dive into the actual wedding planning part headfirst.


1.Discuss a Budget

Money talks, but unfortunately, no one likes to talk about money. It can be, well, awkward. However, before you can really move forward with any of your wedding plans, this is a discussion that has to be had, be it between you and your spouse, or you, your spouse, and the parents. Be truthful with yourself, on how much you really can afford.

Your budget will determine your entire wedding, the feel look, guest amount exct.


Pro Tip: Rather then going over board with the food and flowers, choose one big ticket item in each category. Exp: Its not necessary to go all out on your guest tables, rather spend some more money on the bridal table. This is where


2.Determine Your Wedding Size

Whether you're going big or keeping it small, being on the same page about this one is so important. Get your family's input if it matters to either of you or if they'll be footing the bill. Once you've agreed on a rough guest count that your budget will allow , you can start looking at venues.


3.Think About A Date

The most desirable wedding dates and venues get booked far in advance so if you're hoping to get hitched in the next year or two, it's a wise idea to start thinking about dates now. Find out what works for both your families and if there are any potential conflicts. The date you choose can also have a great impact on your budget. Weddings that take place between Mei-August may be saving on venue hire. There are plenty of venues that offer a winter special between these months.

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4.Research Wedding Venues

Remember: You can't book a date until you've nailed down your dream venue! Do some research online first, or maybe you already have a place in mind and can call to get more information on pricing and availability.


5.Gather Inspiration

Create a Pinterest board, Google Doc, save photos on Instagram, or create a folder on your computer to compile imagery of your favorite wedding elements. Keep it to share with your wedding planner, vendors, mom, friends, fiancé, and whoever else to view and contribute.

Its Important to have a clear view of what you want your wedding to look like before you start sourcing florists, venues and decor.

6.Choose Who Will Be in the Bridal Party

How many bridesmaids or groomsmen do each of you want? Are you cool with having odd numbers or is an even number a must? Does one of you (or both) want a bridesman or groomslady? Will you have a maid of honor or best man? No matter what, you need to discuss these things before one of you starts popping the question to friends. The size of y

our bridal party can also have an effect on your budget. Think about flowers, accessories, attire and favors you may need to add to your budget.


7.Make a Non-Negotiable list

Before you start getting quotes from vendors and suppliers, make a list of thin that are non-negotiable. These are the elements at your wedding that you have dreamed about since you've been a little girl. Maybe there is a a photographer you've always had your heart set on or that amazing florist that has been featured in the Bruidsgids.


8.Interview Planners and/or Vendors

If you're considering bringing a professional planner on board to help with logistics and décor, ask around for references and do a little online research, then set up some interviews. For the vendor referrals alone, a wedding planner is totally worth their weight in gold.



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